1. Get to Know Your Personality
Understanding your own personality is the first key. You have the collective opinion of others which is one aspect.
You also have your own database of information about what your personality is really like, and who you are in your private moments as well as in your public ones.
The idea is to get to know your personality inside out, to know what you are and what you are not like. Understand what makes you react a certain way in life’s myriad of situations. Ask yourself “Why did I do that?” and answer it.
Who are you behind your name? What are your characteristic traits? Who are you among friends? What about strangers? What persona do you portray to the outside world?
2. Get to Know Your Core Values
Your core values are the morale codes and the principles you hold near and dear to your heart. When I work with my clients, one of the first things I ask prior to our coaching sessions is a list of their top eight core values.
You probably have more than eight values, but the top eight play the big roles in decision-making, influencing, persuading, conflict-resolution, communication, and living your day-to-day life.
In your work, in your home, in all aspects of your life, which values can you never compromise? Those are your core values.
3. Get to Know Your Body
Youth is such foolishness. In my 20’s, I used to think I know my body. I was but a child. The more I learn about my body, the more mysterious it becomes and the more I push my body, the more it surprises and delights and amazes me. Yours can too.
How well do you know your body, your breathing, your abilities, your limits of balance and flexibility?
Have you ever said “my body can’t do this” and that “my body type won’t do that” without even trying a physical challenge? Before you close the door to wonderful possibilities, take another look. Take the time to become truly intimate with the loveliest temple on earth, your own body.
4. Get to Know your Dreams
Your dreams and hopes create the pathway into your future. They help you build the life you can be proud of living.
Your dreams matter. Your dreams are important. Your dreams are worth going after. Don’t believe anything less.
And start getting to know your dreams well. Get to know the details and the specifics.
Make your dreams part of your daily pursuits. Take them seriously. Work at them. Glorify them instead of hiding them and being ashamed of them.
5. Get to Know your Likes and Dislikes
What do you like and just as important, what do you dislike? Simple, innocent question but knowing this about yourself gives you a lot of confidence into who you are. A lot of people go through life liking what’s popular and disliking what’s not “cool”. Don’t do that.
Take the time to define your likes and dislikes, and don’t put it up for a vote among family and friends. You decide.