1. Ask for their help and advice
Your parents probably would love to help with your problems, from your relationship troubles to what you’re wearing to the office Christmas party. But you first need to tell your parents that you want advice from them. Getting your parents’ perspective on one of your problems will both help you with your problem and help you understand your parents’ point of view more.
- Try asking about career advice. You could say, “Dad, how did you decide what you wanted to do with your career? I’m feeling lost.”
- Or you could try something like, “Mom, I feel like my friend Annie is upset with me. What do you think I should do?”
2. Try to understand their stresses
Your parents might have bigger problems than you think they do, and these problems could be affecting your relationship. Whether they are having trouble at work, are worried about something, or want to lose a little bit of weight, you should ask your parents if anything has been on their mind recently. Hearing about these problems will help you understand your parents better.
3. Ask people who know your parents to talk about them –
Another way to truly understand your parents is to learn about them from a different perspective. Talk to your grandparents, your siblings, your parents’ siblings, other family members, and your parents’ friends. Ask them to tell stories about your parents, and ask them questions.
- For example, you could say, “Grandma, do you have any funny stories about Dad from when he was little?”
- Or, you could ask your mom’s friend, “Sue, do you think that my mom likes her job?”
Image Source – Google Image